You don’t have to feel like a bad mom just because there are other things that you’re passionate about. In fact, in this post, I’m going to share with you 20 legit reasons that I believe blogging- and really any endeavor outside of mom life- can actually make you a better mother.
Loving other aspects of your life doesn’t mean that you have less love for those amazing kids of yours. You know that, right? That it’s absolutely okay to have other areas of interest and passion?
And here’s the real kicker, mama… I actually think pursuing my passion for online business building and writing makes me a better mom!
And if it’s true for me, maybe it’s true for you, too!
Whenever I type, or even think, the words “wanting more” and imply “wanting more than momming,” I immediately feel like a bad Christian, if not a bad mom.
Because who even admits that they want more?
*coughs, and slowly raises hand*
I have always maintained that I needed a creative outlet, something for me outside of my responsibilities in the home. Not because I don’t love my family, obvi. I just enjoy other things as well.
And I do want more. I’m here to wave my “more than a mom” flag loud and proud.
The thing is, you don’t just go away the minute you have a baby.
Sure, you push your own needs aside. That’s good and proper. That’s what moms do all over the natural world.
I mean, I once saw a documentary highlight an octopus who sacrificed herself to a cast of hungry crabs so that they wouldn’t eat the eggs she had just laid.
And they don’t even nurse their young, or tuck them in at night, or snuggle up to inhale their new baby smell… they don’t even stick around long enough to see them hatch, for goodness sakes. But there she was, octopus mom, laying down her life for her brood.
Momming takes a lot out of you and it should! It’s natural, it’s built in.
It doesn’t have to take the you out of you, know what I mean?
I am a mom no matter where I am or what I’m doing.
And sometimes, thankfully, I’m a mom sitting in my room in self imposed solitary confinement, writing a blog post, while everyone in the family leaves me alone.
It’s true and I’ll say it again and again. Even my husband tells me that he loves when I’m pursuing this thing that I’m passionate about because my demeanor is different. Yes, I hit the jackpot with my husband because he not only supports me, he encourages me. Thank you Jesus.
I don’t have to feel like a bad mom for wanting to spend hours in my week blogging.
You don’t have to feel like a bad mom for pursuing your passions, either.
This is so evident in my life. Whether you ask my husband or my kids, mama’s happiest when she is working on a creative project. I don’t mean the minutes in the day that I’m actually sitting down working. I mean, when there’s a creative project in the works, buzzing through me like a honeybee on the first day of spring, I am glowing all over all day.
Same for you?
Creativity is one of my top values for myself and my family. When you feel aligned with your values, you’re just a much happier, healthier individual.
And it’s just so good to express yourself creatively. In fact, in our house, it’s considered worship to our Original Creator.
I don’t know about you, but I’m guessing washing dishes and folding laundry isn’t that brain stimulating for you. I’m not saying that you can’t do all things with excellence as unto the Lord, or that you can’t enjoy your tasks in the home.
I, for one, love being a homemaker, which is a statement I never thought I’d make.
However, mama’s brain needs a little more… more. Know what I mean? And I don’t have to feel like a bad mom for admitting that.
I believe you should always be growing. Don’t confuse this with “never be content” or “strive for better.”
I just think it’s a good look in every mom to continuously be growing in thoughts and habits. And blogging is really good for making that a priority.
Try coming up with new ideas and inspiration if you’re never talking to anyone! I could be alone 6.5 out of 7 days in the week. But that would make for a boring output and probably a boring life.
Plus, within the blogging world, having other blogging friends is super important. We can encourage one another when things get hard, we can lift one another up, and motivate one another when our well runs dry. Community is just good all around, even for this introvert.
Nothing about knowing nothing, when it comes to a new hobby, gives leverage for arrogance. In fact, the opposite is true. Humble beginnings make you extremely humble.
And that’s always a good lesson for the littles.
One of the best ways to connect to other moms and make new friends, is by being honest about your struggles and shortcomings.
When I’m blogging, I can’t pretend to be a know it all. Who would want to read that? My audience is better served by my mistakes and lessons learned, than by hiding it all. Honesty and authenticity are both high priority values of mine.
Modeling that makes me a much better mother.
I love reading and learning. Knowing very little about blogging means I have an excuse to read and learn more about it.
Being a homeschool mom, living out this idea of “life long learning” to my kids is invaluable. I dare say that’s true of any mom.
I don’t necessarily need a blog to give my days direction. But having a blog does point me to bigger picture thinking, in a lot of ways. Knowing that my blog in particular, is for Christian stay at home moms, causes me to look at my day to day with fresh eyes.
2 Corinthians 1:4 says that we are comforted in our troubles so that we may comfort others. All of my struggles, then, become launching points for posts that may bring comfort and encouragement to other mamas.
Moms should be setting goals. Goals pertaining to the home, the kids, the upcoming projects, finances, nutrition, etc. Any number of goals ought to be on a mom’s radar.
Yet so often we go through life, live out each day, with no goals.
When you’re in the online business world, goal is a buzz word. You simply cannot avoid setting them, and that healthy habit spills over into every aspect of your life.
If I want to try and fit it all in, each day, I have got to be intentional. It’s not going to “just happen” for me. I need to know what I need to get done and then have the discipline to do it.
This is another welcome characteristic to impart to your children and should make you feel like a pretty good mom.
In case you didn’t catch it yet, I’m a dreamer. I believe we should all be dreamers, to a degree. Good old fashioned healthy dreaming. Blogs are good for that.
One of my favorite passages of scripture:
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.Colossians 3:23-24
I mean, you can blog haphazardly and sloppily. But to what end? Who’s being helped? Doing all things with excellence includes momming. Win win.
Boredom as a stay at home mom is a real thing, unfortunately. I haven’t had much time to be bored, in the last few years, since adding our third and final kiddo to the mix, choosing to homeschool, and starting a homestead.
But stagnancy has haunted me in various seasons. Blogging is a cure for both of those things.
I’ve talked a lot about how we are given a purpose, we don’t earn it, find it, or cultivate it. God does the purpose giving and we simply receive.
However, having a place where I feel led to be, serving women I feel called to serve… it fuels that truth, for me. It ignites that truth in my heart and soul. It’s a beautiful thing.
And when my soul is singing, I’m a much better mama.
Knowing your limitations and living within the confines of those limitations, to the best of your ability, that is powerful. You were created to be a human, not God. When you’re investing yourself in a variety of ways, in multiple areas, you have got to know what is true in your innermost being.
Journal like you’re life depends on it. Pass that skill/discipline onto your kids. And watch all of y’all flourish in the understanding of what makes you you.
Trying to build something out of nothing, create order out of chaos, make something of the messages in your heart… that takes faith, sister. That requires a heavy dependence on God. That forces you on your knees in prayer.
Yes, blogging makes me a better, praying mother.
Little introvert homebody me is not going to be your most loud, zealous, in your face evangelist. But I do think sharing Jesus with others is one of my highest callings, alongside marriage and motherhood.
Blogging allows me to do that from my home.
I mean, yea, you’ve gotta get out of your comfort zone from time to time. But I think teaching my children how to be disciples and fulfill the command to go and make disciples, in a way that feels authentic to how they are designed, is pretty cool.
Same sort of thing here as the last benefit: God gifted me with the natural ability to write. God gives His good gifts to lift up the church, further the Kingdom, and edify brothers and sisters in Christ.
So I write. And I feel really good about stewarding my gift well. And I hope my kids grow up to see that, and figure out where their own strengths lie. Good mom indeed.
Doing this thing, alongside the wife-ing and the momming and the daughter-ing and the friend-ing, the sister-ing, and the church member-ing… all of the “ings” of life… really fulfills me.
It really speaks to the desire to fulfill my every call as a Christian sahm.
Since when did you have to be phenomenal at everything to be good at something?
My point is this: I don’t believe that moms have to do everything perfectly to do many things well. And I don’t believe that we have to feel like a bad mom because we pursue other passions while we care for and love on our family.
It’s my prayer and hope that after reading this post, you can see the benefit to pursuing your passions, and stepping into your every calling, as a stay at home mom, too.
Drop a line and let me know which part of this post had you feeling like the good mom that you are?